Life is stressful, take an hour to relax.
You don’t have a soul. You are a soul. You have a body. – Author Unknown
Your boss wants you to do more work in less time. Your spouse wants you to give them more attention and time. Your kids want everything, and they want it right now. And that’s just the people you see every day. You may have friends and family that you are trying to please as well. Do you feel like you are getting pulled in every direction and no matter how much you give everyone still wants more?
If so you are not alone. I once had a married mother of two tell me that she loves going to the grocery store because it’s the only time she has to herself. While there was a humorous tone to the statement, there was also a great deal of honesty. Sometimes we need a bit of time to think, process, and just be. For many this doesn’t happen often enough. Do you feel that you make your emotional well being a priority? How would your life be different if you made some changes in this area?
Most people are on board with the idea of preventative self care for the body. Healthy eating, vitamin supplements, and skin care products with SPF have become the norm. So too have annual physicals and screenings that enable early detection of many health issues. We even get check ups for our vehicles on a regular basis. Why then do so many people neglect themselves when it comes to the soul? Is therapy helpful only in extreme cases, or would everyone benefit from having a time and place to speak openly, be heard, and be accepted without criticism?
While many clients are coming to therapy for specific issues, an ever increasing number are utilizing therapy as preventative medicine for the mind and spirit. Whether it be weekly, monthly, or even seasonally, these clients have found the therapeutic relationship has significant positive impact on their emotional health. Having someone to vent to, a guarantee your conversation stays private, being truly heard without judgement, and sometimes even an alternate perspective that helps you bring things into focus can reduce stress, anxiety, and help you to feel more at peace.
A pleasant side effect can often be seen as other relationships improve. Your spouse may enjoy their time with you more if you aren’t chronically venting about work or other stressors. You may have more patience for your children after you have let go of some pent up frustration at their genuinely annoying quirks. And the effect will continue to move outward little by little. I am not suggesting a new world view or the near perfection of the Dalai Lama (he doesn’t have children to raise), but a more positive presence and version of yourself to share with those around you is within reach.
So go ahead, admit that life comes with baggage. Then find a therapist to help you sort through it and offload as needed. You will feel better, enjoy more, and your family may even thank you.